Will I Have Trouble Bonding with My Baby?

Introduction: A Journey of Love and Connection through Surrogacy

Surrogacy is a miraculous journey that brings immense joy to countless families. However, parents-to-be may experience concerns about bonding with their baby born via surrogacy. In this heartwarming guide, we’ll explore the bonding process and provide you with five nurturing tips to create a strong, loving connection with your precious little one.


Understanding the Bonding Process: A Natural Connection

The bonding process is a natural, instinctive experience that occurs between parents and their babies. Although your baby is born through a surrogate, the attachment process is not solely dependent on physical factors. Emotional connections and consistent nurturing are essential elements of the bonding process (1).


Early Involvement: Be Present from the Start

Being involved in the pregnancy from the beginning can help establish an emotional connection with your baby. Attend prenatal appointments, ultrasounds, and be present during the birth, if possible. This active involvement will reinforce your role as a parent and lay the foundation for bonding with your baby (2).


Skin-to-Skin Contact: The Power of Touch

The act of touching your baby’s skin is one of the most powerful forms of bonding. After birth, hold your baby against your bare chest, allowing them to feel your warmth, heartbeat, and scent. During physical contact, oxytocin (the “love hormone”) is released, which enhances attachment and promotes comfort and safety for you and your newborn (3).

Responsive Parenting: Tune into Your Baby’s Needs

Responding to your baby’s cues and needs is vital for establishing a strong bond. Pay attention to their hunger, sleepiness, or need for comfort, and address these needs promptly. Consistently meeting your baby’s needs will help build trust and reinforce your role as their primary caregiver (4).


Quality Time: Cherish the Moments That Matter

Spend quality time with your baby to deepen your bond. Engage in activities that promote closeness, such as reading, singing, or playing together. Establishing routines and rituals will create a sense of security and help your baby associate you with love, comfort, and care (5).


Conclusion: Embrace Your Bonding Blueprint and Watch Love Bloom

Bonding with your baby born via surrogacy is a natural and beautiful process. By understanding the importance of emotional connections, being present from the start, engaging in skin-to-skin contact, practicing responsive parenting, and spending quality time together, you’ll create a loving and nurturing environment for your baby to thrive. Embrace your bonding blueprint and watch the love between you and your baby flourish.



  1. Klaus, M. H., & Kennell, J. H. (1976). Maternal-Infant Bonding: The Impact of Early Separation or Loss on Family Development. C.V. Mosby.
  2. Uvnäs-Moberg, K., Handlin, L., & Petersson, M. (2014). Self-Soothing Behaviors with Particular Reference to Oxytocin Release Induced by Non-Noxious Sensory Stimulation. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 1529.
  3. Moore, E. R., Bergman, N., Anderson, G. C., & Medley, N. (2016). Early Skin-to-Skin Contact for Mothers and their Healthy Newborn Infants. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews, 11, CD003519.
  4. DeCasper, A. J., & Spence, M. J. (1986). Prenatal Maternal Speech Influences Newborns’ Perception of Speech Sounds. Infant Behavior and Development, 9(2), 133-150.
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