Should I Become a Surrogate? What Potential Surrogates Need to Know

As the popularity of surrogacy continues to rise, many women are considering whether or not they themselves should become surrogates. Some women are drawn to the potential to help others, the ability to provide for their families, or simply enjoy pregnancy.

The decision to become a surrogate should not be taken lightly as it is an intimate, emotional, and physical experience. If you are considering becoming a surrogate, here are some things to consider before making your decision.

What Are the Benefits of Becoming a Surrogate?

Becoming a surrogate offers numerous benefits, that aren’t often explored. However, as the surrogacy community grows, more and more women are coming forward with their stories and describing all of the positive aspects that have come out of becoming a surrogate. Here’s what you should know about the benefits of becoming a surrogate!

Surrogacy Helps to Create Families

Many of the women who become surrogates, do so because they wish to help other deserving families grow. Surrogacy helps those who are infertile, members of the LGBT community, women who cannot safely carry a child to term, and single individuals who are ready to have children.

While adoption has always been an option, many people strongly feel a desire to have a child that is biologically related to them. Surrogacy aids families who didn’t have this option before and surrogates are the ones who make all of it possible. The generosity of the selfless women who become surrogates is truly a gift.

Surrogacy Allows You to Provide for Your Family

Most parents want to spend time with their children but are pulled away from home because they need to provide for their families. However, becoming a surrogate mother allows women to provide for their families. Whether a surrogate chooses to become a stay-at-home mother or chooses to remain in the workforce, becoming a surrogate provides an opportunity to provide for your family.

Becoming a Surrogate Can Fulfill Some Women

Some women become surrogates to fulfill a deep-seated need to aid other families and experience pregnancy long after their own family has been completed. The selfless women who become surrogates know the joys of being a parent and want to share that joy with others.

Become a Member of a Special and Supportive Community

The community of surrogate mothers is growing! With the rise of social media, surrogate mothers have been able to connect like never before. They share their surrogacy journeys with one another, share stories of their own families, and sometimes meet long-term friends. While your surrogacy journey will be unique, you’ll never be alone in it.

In addition to the support that you will receive from family, friends, and the intended parents, the community of surrogate mothers will embrace you with open arms. Your first community might even just be your surrogacy agency. When you choose to work with Simple Surrogacy, you’re choosing to work alongside a team of professionals, the majority of which have been surrogate mothers themselves!

You can feel free to ask our team any questions regarding surrogacy and receive answers from those who have actually gone through the process, which is an invaluable asset.

What You Should Consider Before Becoming a Surrogate?

The decision to become a surrogate is a deeply personal one, as every surrogate mother’s situation is unique. Ultimately, it is up to you to determine whether becoming a surrogate mother is right for you. It’s an emotional and physical journey, that requires a special and selfless individual. Here’s what you should consider prior to making the choice to become a surrogate.

Your Support Network

In most cases, your family and friends will be the first to know that you are considering becoming a surrogate. Ensuring that they understand everything about surrogacy and are ready and willing to support you through the process is imperative. Becoming a surrogate can mean awkward questions or even some negative comments but having your friends and family in your corner makes it easy to brush those aside and be proud of your decision to help others.

Your Children

Your children will be involved in your surrogacy journey, not directly, but they will need to learn about surrogacy and understand what you are doing, so as to avoid confusion. There are now many children’s books available to help better explain surrogacy. If you have young children, it may be difficult to explain surrogacy to them, but it presents an excellent opportunity to teach them about surrogacy and how it helps other families. Explaining the process to older children is a lot easier, and they will be able to understand your decision a lot better.

The Medical Process of Surrogacy

Is surrogacy does involve pregnancy, there are strict medical guidelines and practices in place to ensure that the surrogacy is successful and, most importantly, safe. In the United States, the vast majority of surrogacies that take place are gestational surrogacies in which the surrogate has no biological relationship to the child.

Gestational surrogacies require surrogates to have an embryo implanted into their womb, to carry a baby to term. It’s important to become familiar with the IVF process and the medical aspect of surrogacy to ensure that it is the right decision for you.

Final Thoughts

The question of whether or not you should become a surrogate is only yours to answer. Surrogacy is a deeply intimate journey that is shared between surrogate mother and intended parents. Becoming a surrogate is something that should feel right for you.

If you have any questions about the surrogacy process or are considering becoming a surrogate, please do not hesitate to reach out with any questions or concerns that you may have. We, as Simple Surrogacy, would love to share our expertise with you and welcome you to work with our agency should you choose to become a surrogate. Get in touch with our team by giving us a call at (866) 461-4550 or filling out our online form here. We look forward to hearing from you!