Gay Surrogacy Gift Ideas For Your Surrogate – Simple Surrogacy

Intended parents often ask if they should buy their surrogate a gift. And the answer is that’s it up to you. There are no rules when it comes to gift giving. Your surrogate may be giving you the best gift ever, a precious baby of your own, but this doesn’t mean that you’re obligated to shower her with presents. She’ll no doubt already know the appreciation that you and your partner feel about her commitment to the surrogacy process.
Should you decide that it feels right to buy a present for your surrogate at any time in the journey, there will be many opportunities for you – the first time you meet your surrogate, your 20-week ultrasound, and of course at the birth of your baby.
Here are some great ideas for giving the perfect thoughtful gift to your surrogate.

Conception gifts

The day that you and your surrogate find out that you’re pregnant is a joyous one. The big moment that you’ve all anticipated has arrived. For your surrogate, the journey of pregnancy has just begun. Show your appreciation with a small gift your surrogate can use during these next few weeks.
• A pregnancy journal so she can record her thoughts and feelings throughout every step of the pregnancy.
• A basket filled with gifts to make her feel more comfortable during the first trimester, such as belly butter, hand lotion, a cozy throw blanket and slippers, and chocolates.
• Certificate for a manicure and pedicure.
• Books about pregnancy.
• A tea basket for those rough mornings.
• A colorful mug with a pack of decaf coffee.
• Gift certificate for a cleaning service for one month or longer to help her through the early days.

Comforting, thoughtful gifts

Throughout any pregnancy, a little comfort is always welcome, especially during the last three months when it’s harder to get around and your surrogate is feeling more fatigued. Consider giving one of these comforting gifts that can provide her with a little pick-me-up:
• Candles and bath soaps in soothing scents, such as lavender and rosemary.
• A gift certificate to a spa.
• Certificate for new maternity clothes.
• Fresh flowers or a potted plant to cheer her up.
• A snack basket filled with healthy snacks for late night cravings.
• Gift cards to the movies.
• A stack of books and magazines.
• Delivery socks in anticipation of the big day.

Sentimental gifts

Gifts with a sentimental value are something she’ll always cherish as a reminder of her time as a surrogate. Stick within your budget. Sentimental gifts don’t need to be expensive – they just need to convey the emotions that you’re feeling at this time and want to remember long into the future.
• An engraved bracelet with the baby’s name.
• A personalized necklace with the baby’s name and birth date.
• A photo of the completed nursery so she’ll know how excited you are to welcome baby.
• A photo shoot with you, your surrogate, and her family. If you plan on talking to your child about their birth journey, this is a wonderful photo to show your baby when he or she gets older.
• An imprint of baby’s hand and foot prints.
• Savings bonds for your surrogate’s children that she can use towards their university education.

Gifts during the holidays

The holidays are the perfect time for gift giving both during pregnancy and after the baby’s birth. If you plan on staying in touch with your surrogate after the birth, holidays let you share a part of your little one with your surrogate. Birthdays, Christmas, and other holidays provide endless gift ideas:
• Cozy, warm pjs for those chilly holiday nights.
• Soft scarves.
• A gift basket filled with homemade treats, such as cookies and chocolate.
• A photo album filled with pictures of the first year of baby’s life.
• A framed picture of your little one.
• A homemade gift from your child to your surrogate when they’re old enough to participate, such as a colored card or painted picture.

Push presents

Push presents are common for women after giving birth – and it’s no different for your surrogate. She’s made it through nine months of ups and downs and now it’s time for her to take the final steps before handing you your little bundle of joy. Show your appreciation with a push present:
• Spa package for pampering after the birth.
• A basket of cheese, chocolate, and wine.
• A ring with the birthstone for the month your baby was born.
• A personal chef for one week as she recovers.
• Gift card for yoga or other fitness classes.
• Gift certificate for a hair makeover.
• A handwritten note, letting her know exactly what this day means to you and your partner.

Presents for your surrogate’s family

Don’t forget your surrogate’s family – they’re along for the ride on this amazing journey. And they have to deal with mom when those pregnancy hormones take over! Get to know a little about her family. The ages and names of her children, the name of her partner, and what they like to do together that makes them a family. This makes it easy to buy gifts that make everyone feel included:
• A weekend away or date night with her significant other – hire a sitter as well.
• Birthday cards for her children, along with a small gift, such as a book or movie certificate.
• Tickets to a family event, such a concert or a local theme park.
• An ice cream basket filled with all the fixings for a family sundae night.
• Take everyone out to dinner, spending some time getting to know one another.
• Toys and books for holiday celebrations.
• A gift card for older children to choose their own present.

Last Words

Small gestures are just one way that you can let your surrogate know how much she means to you. She’s devoted a few months of her life to helping you and your partner realize the dream of having your own family. Gifts don’t need to be elaborate; they can just make your surrogate feel appreciated and welcome as a big part of your future journey as parents.