Single Mothers – Can You Be a Surrogate?
Are you a single mother who has had at least one child of your own and experienced a happy, healthy pregnancy and delivery? Would you like to help others fulfill their dreams of having a family of their own? By becoming a surrogate mother with Simple Surrogacy, you can! All women who meet our surrogate requirements, including single mothers, are invited to apply to become a surrogate mother with our agency. Read on to find out how you, a single mother, can give the gift of life to others!
Why Should Single Mothers Consider Surrogacy?
Gestational surrogacy can be profitable for single mothers in many ways, and not just financially. While being paid to be a surrogate for intended parents is, of course, an obvious benefit, there are many other intangible benefits that single mothers who become surrogate mothers will discover. One of these is the possibility of increasing the size of your extended family by becoming close with the intended parents and staying in touch with them once the baby is born. If the intended parents and you come to a mutual agreement about the type of relationship you want to have after the child is born, you have the opportunity to build your extended family and, thus, provide even more love and companionship for your own children. Not all intended parents would agree to such a relationship with their surrogate, so it’s important for you to be completely honest about the type of relationship you desire. In that way, you can be sure that you will be matched to intended parents who want that type of relationship with their surrogate, too.
Often, single mothers choose to become a surrogate mother because they enjoyed being pregnant and had happy, healthy pregnancies. While having another child of your own might not be financially feasible in your personal situation, becoming pregnant and giving the gift of life to others can be!
What Requirements Must Single Mothers Meet to be Surrogates?
Single mothers must, of course, meet the same requirements to become a surrogate as other women. Some of those requirements might mean more to single mothers, however. If you choose to work with Simple Surrogacy, requirements to become a surrogate that could be more important to single mothers who choose to become surrogates than to other surrogate mothers include:
- Being in a secure living situation and having the last seven years of your address verified. This could be an issue if you are recently divorced or have been in complicated relationships and have had unstable living situations.
- Refraining from alcohol during the processes of surrogacy and pregnancy. This is definitely doable, but can be more difficult for some single mothers who are still dating.
- Not having a spouse or significant other for support. This is not a deal breaker, but can make surrogacy a bit more difficult for single mothers if they do not have a partner. As you will read below, friends and family members can provide support just as well as a spouse or partner.
Speaking of dating, many single mothers ask if they will still be allowed to date if they become a surrogate. You may, of course, date and continue with your normal life. If you decide to become sexually active with someone new during the surrogacy process, however, you must tell your doctor. You must also take precautions so that you do not contract any sexually transmitted diseases. This might include having your new partner tested before becoming sexually active. You must be completely honest and upfront with your new partner and let them know that you are a surrogate mother. With some common sense and forethought, it is possible to be a single mother who dates and is also a surrogate mother.
Having a Support System
While single mothers are accustomed to raising their children alone, they know that it is still important to have a support system (as they say, it takes a village to raise a child). This is even more important if you are a single mother who is contemplating becoming a surrogate. You will need family and friends by your side during the surrogacy process, as it can be physically and emotionally challenging and tiring at times. You will need to rely on dependable people who can look after your children while you are at medical appointments and during the height of your pregnancy. Your children will also need looking after while you are giving birth and recovering.
Friends and family are vital to your own emotional support as well. You have been pregnant at least once before, and therefore, you know that it can be rough at times, with your emotions all over the place. You will want people surrounding you who can provide encouragement, a shoulder to cry on if necessary, and love. You might also want someone who can provide transportation to appointments as you get larger during later stages of pregnancy.
Surrogacy agencies like Simple Surrogacy can and will provide you with much support and can link you with other surrogates, both in-person and online. However, you can’t beat having your own family and friends around you for support at this important time in your life.
How Will Your Children Handle It?
Another consideration for single mothers is the reaction their own children will have to seeing Mommy pregnant with another person’s child. It will be up to you to educate them about the surrogacy process and help them to understand that this baby won’t be coming home from the hospital with you to join your family. If you and the intended parents plan to have a relationship after the baby is born, try to include your children in that relationship as well. Extending their family can only provide your kids with more love!
Become a Surrogate With Simple Surrogacy!
If you are a single mother who would like to pursue becoming a surrogate, please contact Simple Surrogacy today! We can start the application process with you and answer any questions you might have. Call us at 1-866-41-SURRO or fill out our convenient online form. A representative will get back to you soon. We look forward to working with you to give the gift of life to others!
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