The Truth Behind Surrogacy Agencies’ False Claims: Things that make you go Hmmmmn
Surrogacy is an incredibly personal and life-changing experience, both for the intended parents and for the surrogate. Choosing the right surrogacy agency is crucial, as they play a major role in ensuring a smooth and successful journey. However, with surrogacy becoming a more common option, the market has seen a rise in agencies that are relatively new, yet quick to make bold, often false, claims to attract clients. Below, we’ll explore some of the most common deceptive tactics used by certain surrogacy agencies and how they mislead both intended parents and surrogates.
One common lie some newer agencies tell is the number of journeys they claim to have successfully completed. Imagine an agency that claims to have overseen 1,800 surrogacy journeys in the past year alone. This number might sound impressive, but if you dig a little deeper, it’s blatantly misleading. For context, even the most well-established and reputable surrogacy agencies, with decades of experience, have not handled this many cases in three years, let alone one. It’s important to remember that anyone can make claims like this—it’s as easy as typing a number onto a website. For intended parents or surrogates, these exaggerated figures are meant to create the illusion of experience and stability, but in reality, they should raise red flags. Numbers alone do not reflect the quality of care, expertise, or trustworthiness of an agency.
“We’re the Oldest Agency in the State!” – But Are They Really?
Another lie that often surfaces is when an agency claims to be the oldest or most established in a particular state. It’s a statement designed to make the agency seem reliable and deeply rooted in the surrogacy community. However, a quick check of domain registrations can tell a different story. One such agency made this claim despite its website only being registered five years ago. Verifying when a business was established is easier than most people think, but many intended parents don’t realize they can or should investigate these claims. Lying about how long they’ve been in business is another tactic agencies use to present themselves as more experienced than they really are, hoping that potential clients will simply take their word for it. You should instead verify that they are who they say they are through speaking to Intended Parents who have gone through their program long ago, or verifying their presence on organizations boards dating back many years.
False Promises to Surrogates: Compensation and Support
It’s not just intended parents who are misled — surrogates can fall victim to false promises as well. Some agencies lure surrogates by offering enticing compensation packages that are inflated or exaggerated compared to what more reputable agencies would offer. These promises are often made to “poach” surrogates away from established agencies. However, once the surrogate signs on, she may find that the agency is far less supportive than they initially seemed. When issues arise—be it with the intended parents, legal hurdles, or medical complications—these inexperienced agencies may lack the expertise or resources to provide adequate support. Many of these agencies are focused more on increasing their bottom line than genuinely advocating for the best interests of the surrogate.
In many cases, they promise a smooth process but fail to deliver when it matters most. Surrogates can find themselves without the guidance or help they need, left to navigate complex situations alone. Agencies that prioritize profit over the well-being of their surrogates tend to underperform when faced with real-world challenges, ultimately failing to provide the level of care and service that was promised.
Guaranteed Match Time: A Promise Too Good to Be True
Another common tactic is the over-promise of a guaranteed match time. Some agencies claim they can match you with a surrogate in as little as 90 days. While this may sound ideal, the reality is often more complicated. Have they done all the necessary work to ensure the surrogate is thoroughly prepared for the journey and has all of her questions and expectations addressed? Rushing the match process can lead to significant problems later on. For instance, has the surrogate’s medical history been reviewed at your clinic? Have her records been approved, and has she passed background checks and psychological evaluations? Has she been interviewed to assure her commitment to the process? These steps are critical but can be overlooked by agencies desperate to hit their promised timeline. Worse yet, some agencies may pressure surrogates into choosing your profile just to meet the match deadline, which could lead to a forced match rather than a genuine, mutual one. You might also be settling for the surrogate who is available in 90 days rather than your ideal match. This rush can ultimately set the stage for a challenging journey, where the match is not based on a true connection or compatibility, but on meeting an arbitrary deadline. Giving a general idea of match time is a great idea, but to guarantee a time means neither surrogate or intended parent will get the perfect match for the journey.
Conclusion: Why Simple Surrogacy is a Trusted Leader
This is why it’s so important to choose an agency with a verifiable reputation, like Simple Surrogacy. Our standing in the surrogacy community can be confirmed through the boards we sit on, such as Gays with Kids, where we are a founding member and Lead Financial Expert, and Men Having Babies, where we serve on the Advisory Council. We are also a certified member of RESOLVE and SEEDs, and are licensed in the only state to license Agencies, New York State. We strictly adhere to all ASRM Guidelines, and participate in the Parenting Assistance Programs of both Men Having Babies, and Gays With Kids, and Rainbow Families. At Simple Surrogacy, we believe in transparency and honesty. Our website provides clear, upfront pricing and details about our process, and we offer free consultations to ensure you have all the information you need. We also provide references to many of the intended parents who have gone through our program, further ensuring that we are honest, transparent, and reliable. As one of the few nationally recognized experts in Surrogacy that still remains all-women owned, and not owned by private Equity, we have the ability to put our Intended Parents and Surrogates at the center of everything we do, rather than have to report profits to a corporate board. Whether you are an Intended Parent or a Surrogate, you can trust that Simple Surrogacy has your best interests at heart, and we are here to support you every step of the way.
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