Can You Be A Surrogate While Single?

One of the requirements for becoming a surrogate is to be done with your own family, which means that many people are married or in long-term relationships when they become surrogates. One of our requirements for surrogacy is not, however, to be married! Single mothers who are done with their families can also become surrogates and help families grow.

Here are some things to keep in mind if you intend to pursue surrogacy while single:

Have a Support System in Place

Support is everything during a pregnancy, especially a surrogacy journey. As you get further along in your pregnancy you may need assistance with chores, errands, and general care. Speak to your older children to see if you can work out a deal for extra chores, enlist family and friends, and reach out to your surrogacy coordinator for ideas on how to get help.

You don’t need a partner to live in your house for a support system to exist.

You Will Spend Time Away

Between doctor visits, matching, clinic visits, and the birth itself, you can expect to spend some time away from your children during this process. If you can, arrange childcare ahead of time according to the schedule one of our expert coordinators makes for you.

Then, spend some time understanding what that may be like for your children. You may want to plant some quality bonding time and focused time together around larger events that would require you to travel.

You Will Have To Field Questions

There are going to be questions coming from people around you about your pregnancy, and without a clear partner, they may be uncomfortable. Most surrogates have to deal with some level of uncomfortable questions surrounding their pregnancy as well, so handle these as you would normally.

Inform and increase understanding. You can teach the people around you about surrogacy and create a wave in your community.

Your Dating Life Will Be Affected

If you are in the dating pool during your surrogacy, you may be affected by some restrictions. Firstly, you will be pregnant! This means you may not be able to participate in some kinds of dates like hiking, strenuous activity, or spontaneous trips. In addition, you will have your intimate relations postponed during your IVF cycle.

You may need to put dating on somewhat of a hold during this time.

Becoming a Surrogate as a single parent is definitely doable. As long as you have a solid support system, the understanding of your circle, and the ability to alter your routine, you are prime to become a surrogate.

If you would like to apply to be a surrogate, please visit us here.