Single Fathers Exploring Surrogacy Options
Families come in all shapes and sizes. The archetypal family typically consists of children and two parents, however, that image is changing. It has been proven time and time again that single-parent families are just as loving and solid as those with two parents. Surrogacy has increasingly become a method of starting a family for single fathers. Fatherhood shouldn’t be limited solely to those who are partnered. Surrogacy makes it possible for single fathers to become parents to their own bundles of joy.
Surrogacy for Single Fathers
Single fathers choose surrogacy as a method to grow their families for several reasons. There are many men who wish to experience fatherhood and do not wish to wait for the time when they are happily settled into a relationship. Some men aren’t interested in marriage or having a partner at all and plan on raising their child alone.
Oftentimes, men seek out surrogacy over adoption because they prefer to raise children who are biologically related to them. Adoption is a viable option for many families; however, many single fathers are drawn to the opportunity to raise their child from birth which is difficult to achieve via adoption. Oftentimes, single fathers are not the first choice of birth parents who place their child up for adoption as they typically seek out two parents’ households.
Some single fathers pursuing surrogacy are gay and simply want to have children. While men are not typically associated with a “paternal instinct” many men wish to become fathers and surrogacy allows them to do so on their own terms.
Single Fathers and the Surrogacy Process
The surrogacy process for single fathers is very similar to the process of surrogacy for all others. A successful surrogacy journey begins with ensuring that you perform research on surrogacy to determine whether or not it is the right choice for you and your growing family. It’s important to weigh surrogacy against other popular methods of starting a family such as adoption, each method will have its own benefits and drawbacks that will influence your decision.
Once you have determined that surrogacy is right for you, it’s time to choose an agency to work with. Making an informed decision is imperative. You don’t want to choose a surrogacy agency only to later find out that they have a less than stellar record when it comes to happy and satisfied clients. There are many horror stories from intended parents who choose a seemingly reputable surrogacy agency but end up wasting time and money into a shady or fake business. Be sure your Agency has worked with many single fathers and understand the unique challenges of single parenthood.
That’s why it’s a good idea to do in-depth research into your agency before signing any legally binding contracts or writing any checks. Simple surrogacy has almost two decades of experience in creating families through surrogacy. We have worked with many single fathers and offer references to many who have been through our program. You can speak with these fathers and understand their experiences. In addition, we have a Facebook group where you can continue to connect with these fathers for parenting assistance and support after you are a father. We are proud of our legacy and are more than happy to help you on your journey to find the right agency (hopefully, us!)
Once you have chosen your agency, your surrogacy adventure truly begins. As a single father, it is likely that you will require an egg donor to help create a viable embryo. Additionally, you must decide which type of surrogacy you would like to pursue gestational or traditional.
Gestational surrogacies are the most popular types of surrogacy. In this type of surrogacy, the surrogate is in no way genetically related to the child they carry. An embryo is created using an anonymous egg donor and is subsequently implanted into your gestational carrier or surrogate. The laws regarding parental rights to children born via surrogacy typically favor biological parents, single fathers who choose gestational surrogacy would not have to share parental rights with their surrogate.
After you have determined what kind of surrogacy you would like to pursue, you will get a chance to view different surrogates who fit your specifications. Once you have chosen a potential surrogate, she will be alerted to the match by your agency.
You will have a chance to meet and talk with your surrogate before deciding whether or not you would like to work with her. If both you and your surrogate are happy with the match, you will both sign a surrogate contract that goes into detail about the legality of the arrangement and outline payments.
Now that you and your surrogate have agreed to work with one another, she will undergo medical procedures to get her body ready to be implanted with your embryo. Once the embryo is successfully implanted your pregnancy will have officially began.
During the surrogate’s pregnancy, you will likely be in regular contact with her. Surrogacy is a very intimate experience. As you are growing a child with another person, it is likely that you and your surrogate will develop a close relationship. She will likely share the baby’s first kicks with you, updates on her doctor’s appointments, and other pertinent details regarding the pregnancy. This allows you to be as much a part of the process as possible. On delivery day, you will both share the experience of welcoming a new life into the world and you will forever be linked by the journey of surrogacy.
You will have the option of remaining in touch with your surrogate, however, it is not required. Some parents feel that giving their surrogate a gift or “push present” is a great way to show how thankful they are. These gifts are not necessary but are a great way to show your gratitude!
Why Simple Surrogacy
Simple Surrogacy is committed to making the surrogacy experience a positive one by supporting you every step of the way. We work hard to ensure that our surrogates are fairly compensated and that intended parents are satisfied throughout the process of bringing their new baby into the world. We know that surrogacy can be expensive which is why we work to maintain some of the lowest egg donation and surrogacy costs around. Visit our website to learn more about surrogacy.