Building a Relationship with Your Surrogate Mother

Surrogate Relationship

Surrogacy can sometimes be a stressful and challenging journey for both the surrogate and the intended parents. Since the surrogate will be your main point of contact for a long time, it is important to build a relationship with her to make the journey easier for the both of you. It takes a very special woman to make the selfless decision to become a surrogate and with that being said, surrogates are excited to be able to help you achieve your dreams of having a baby. Depending on the terms of your agreement, the surrogate mother may or may not wish to stay in contact with you after the process is complete. However, it is recommended to build a strong relationship with your surrogate mother to ensure that the surrogacy journey is as smooth as possible.

How Can I Build a Relationship With My Surrogate?


Firstly, in order to build a good relationship with your surrogate mother, it is important to establish a sense of trust. You do not have to blindly trust the surrogate, but it is beneficial for your relationship to show your surrogate mother that you trust her to carry your child for nine months.


Secondly, be sure to communicate with each other about the pregnancy and your relationship to ensure that you are on the same page. If you are unsure of how to communicate with your surrogate, talk to her and establish communication expectations from the start. This will avoid any awkward interactions in the future. Remember to show your surrogate mother that you care about her life and her well-being.


Keeping that in mind, it is very important to take into account that your surrogate mother also has a life outside of the pregnancy. She may have her own kids, family, a full-time career, or other commitments that she must attend to. Be sure to be flexible and remember that surrogacy is only one part of her life that needs attention. Do not set unrealistic expectations for her.

Set Boundaries

Finally, even though you are focusing on building a strong relationship with your surrogate mother, always remember to set boundaries. It can be easy to move too fast and reveal too much information while getting to know your surrogate mother. Set boundaries by taking it slow and approaching the situation one step at a time.

Remember, you are not alone. If you have any questions about the surrogacy process or are interested in becoming a surrogate yourself, visit our website today or call us at 1-866-41-SURRO!

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